One of the challenges of traveling is learning how to deal with loneliness abroad. Though eye-opening and exciting, living abroad can also be difficult and isolating. Having a circle of friends, or even just one close friend, can make a difference in how you live the experience and overcome obstacles.
There are a few different elements to feeling lonely or isolated abroad. Many people have a hard time living without their loved ones back home. Missing parents, best friends, or a significant other is common. Many people also suffer from a sense of isolation from their home culture. They find it difficult to adapt to the new culture and aren’t quite able to connect or find comfort in it. Loneliness also comes from simply not having any new friends there for you emotionally. It’s important to try to make friends abroad and have an open mind. You never know who could end up being your support system and best international travel buddy.
Contrary to what you may think, spending too much time on Skype or social media talking to friends back home will make you miss home more. Though it’s important to stay in touch during your international internship, being too focused on what’s going on back home will cause you to miss out on the amazing opportunities for fun and learning you have in your new country.
It can be therapeutic to share with others when you feel lonely or miss home as long as you aren’t having a pity party or victimizing yourself. There are tons of amazing adventures at your feet when you’re abroad. However, it’s natural to feel alone and miss home, and it’s good to talk about those feelings to move forward; just don't dwell on them too much.
Let your interests lead you to making new friends abroad, whether they be other expats or locals. You could choose to join a soccer team or start a book club. Regular social activities that involve your interests are great for meeting people you'll have something in common with and enjoying yourself too!
One of the benefits of going abroad through The Intern Group is that the program plans social events for you to meet other interns doing the program. Being part of a network of interns makes the whole experience of living abroad a lot more social and less lonely. At your internship abroad you’ll also develop relationships with your coworkers.
Pick a few places around your housing to become more familiar with. Become a regular at a local coffee shop, restaurant, or fruit stand. Seeing the same people every day at these local places will make you feel more at home, more comfortable and, as you develop a bit of a rapport with the people working, you’ll feel less alone.
Instead of worrying about how alone you are, focus your energy on your adventures in this new, exciting country. Even if you’re completely alone, make a bucket list and commit yourself to exploring and learning.
Taking classes is an excellent way to meet other people with similar interests and goals. Many of The Intern Group‘s programs include foreign language classes for interns, which help with language learning and can also be useful for social endeavors.
Print off some pictures to hang up on your wall and get creative to make your accommodation feel a little more like home. It will never feel like you’re back in your home country, but with a few familiar items, you can make the place yours.
Living abroad really pushes you outside your comfort zone. Just walking down the street or buying groceries can be a challenge, especially if there’s a language barrier. It’s important to resist the urge to stay home in your room and instead say “yes” to as many outings and activities as possible. If not, you’ll just feel more and more isolated and waste the opportunity that you have living abroad. You’ll be back home sooner than you think.