Going abroad isn’t a walk in the park. You’re going to an unknown country, city and workplace so naturally it’s going to take some time to adjust and gain independence. The key is to avoid wallowing in any frustration that you might experience abroad. You need to learn how to stay positive while traveling abroad. Keep your chin up and continue moving forward. Remember – nothing ventured, nothing gained.
When you’re feeling disenchanted, frustrated and unmotivated, take a moment to just feel it. If you try to bottle up your emotions or pretend that they don’t exist, your mood may improve in the short term but over time you’ll be even more upset and angry.
Think about all of the reasons you decided to come abroad and keep in mind that in order to learn and become more independent, it’s also necessary to struggle a bit. Overcoming adversity during your experience abroad will ultimately make you stronger. Keep your eyes on why you’re there (not to be comfortable) and use those goals to motivate you through any difficulties. You’ve got things to accomplish.
There’s no better way to get over a bad day than to laugh at it – and at yourself. Whether abroad or not, we’re all just figuring it out as we go along. Making light of troubling situations will help you let go of negative moments, heal and move forward.
Delve deep into what is causing you stress and why. Take some time to process your feelings and understand what exactly is causing them. Sometimes getting over challenges is just a matter of exploring and accepting them and how they make you feel.
Don’t feel bad about sharing your feelings of loneliness, frustration or sadness with others. On the contrary, discussing these emotions can be helpful in getting past them and can also bring you closer to your roommates and peers.
If you’re having a hard time staying positive or pushing yourself to be adventurous, pick some mantras that you can repeat to keep yourself psyched and focused on the opportunities at your feet – rather than the challenges. Use mantras or quotes that you are familiar with or make up your own to fit your particular circumstance. Write these sayings out and hang them up where you can see them every day – like the fridge or your bedroom. Examples: “I am here to learn and grow and that means getting comfortable being uncomfortable.” or “Smile. Breathe deep. Remember why you’re here. Challenges are merely opportunities.”.
There are lots of ways to relieve stress through physical activity. Running, yoga and other types of exercise can be very therapeutic – not just good for the body, but the soul as well. The endorphins released during physical activity will cause a sense of euphoria and help you de-stress and give you plenty of time to think over and process any difficulties with your situation.
It’s easy to slip into the bad habit of focusing your thoughts and energy on the negative. It can be easy to see what isn’t going ideally rather than appreciate what’s good in life. To keep yourself positive and grateful, work on some gratitudes. Making a list of things you’re thankful for will help you refocus your energy on appreciation. And there’s so much to be thankful for – from your sense of taste, to your parents, your citizenship, your education… don’t stop until you have at least 50 things you are thankful for.
This time you have abroad – no matter how fun or frustrating – is limited. No matter how you feel, it’s still an amazing opportunity to learn and grow. There’s no sense in wasting time focusing on the negative. You’ll be home soon, so while you’re abroad, work on what you can do to take advantage of this great opportunity.
Sources: http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/open-mind
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